Tomorrow is never Promised, Is it Time to Forgive Dad

When the Journey Ends

Tomorrow is never Promised.  This is the first year I will not have my dad for Father’s Day. Wow, we know, it’s a day we must all face, however it is a feeling you just can’t explain. Depending on the type of relationship, it probably leaves a bit of emptiness. I have a friend whose relationship was not good with her father. When he passed, unfortunately, she was not able to satisfactory make amends. Now, she lives with this added scar.

When your Hero is gone

I woke up this morning and heard write a tribute to fathers. Like I stated earlier, my dad has gone to be with the LORD. It just reminds me of how important a man he was in my life. As kids, we developed an image of what a father should emulate. However, no father is perfect, I think mothers get more of a pass on that than fathers. We expect them to walk in perfection. As kids when we looked up at them, they seem to be like a giant. A giant defeating anything bad that came across their path.

I think as we grow older, we still hold on to that image that our Fathers are giants that cannot fail. We idolize them, make them larger than life. A large than life image that many cannot live up to. We become disappointed. Having feelings of rejection, because this man, the man we call father, no longer lives up to our expectations.

This idolatry begins to damage our relationship with our fathers and eventually cascades into impeding ourselves. We have thoughts of, why must he be this way, why cannot he change. We look at friends’ father or tv dad and say why cannot he be like that or wishing he were more like so and so. Not even taken into consideration the person we may admire also has flaws that we have no privy.

He is a part of you

This child-like image we have engrained in our minds, we must let go.  See your dad for who he is, appreciate what he has to offer.   I know some are reading this and saying well my dad was not in my life as a child, I can only imagine how you feel.  Others may say, you do not know the hell he put us through, or some say he is an S.O.B. that I sympathize with you.

Remember, that you are a spirit being, and part of you is him.  You cannot escape that fact he is a part of you.   When you hold anger, bitterness toward him, you are attacking a part that is inside of you. A part that silently but vigorously rips you apart from the inside out.   This battle causes you to be on the extreme ends of the spectrum, never having a balance.   Being off balance causes you to fight for peace and a false sense of peace might I add.

I believe as we near the end of our life, we begin to have many regrets, and fathers are not immune to these regrets. I remember talking to friends who work in some type of nursing home or health care dealing with the elderly, they tell me how many of these fathers only see their children on the holidays.  As their journey begins to dim, their hearts bleed, some have guilt and shame for what they have or did not do.  Permit them to be released from that.

Make a Change

This Father’s Day, if you are not speaking to your father, find it in your heart to reach out.   Think of it this way, when you begin to heal your heart, maybe your spirit may touch him for his to be healed so that he can become a better person.  Many times, we as kids do not know what our father’s upbringing was to make him turn out the way he is.   Forgiveness not only heals you but him and it stops that cycle from being repeated in the generations to come.  Your father DNA is part of you, and you are a part of your children’s DNA.

If you still cannot do it for him, do it for your children.  They are watching your every move.   Tomorrow is never promised.  A time may come where it will be almost impossible to heal the scar.

 

Transition Time

You know I got to help my father transition into the afterlife, and I did not even know he was ill.  He had my mom call me to ask for me to say a prayer.  The prayer GOD had me say was very intense, that I had to call my pastor.  It was about four hours later I get the heart-stopping call he was gone.    I was used to talking to my dad a few times a week.  Being able to assist daddy in transitioning peacefully was one of the best gifts I could have because I was not there with him physically.

Your father cannot change or heal your past, that my dear is something you have the power to do, be healed from your past.   So, take the time to heal your heart, to forgive, and move beyond the pain.  There is something good in all of us even your dad.  You are a child of GOD and he is a child of GOD.  I hope this helped someone begin the healing process.

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Financial Breakthrough

When your financial blessings are on lockdown

Definition

Definition of breakthrough–  warfare: an offensive military assault that penetrates and carries beyond a defensive line, an act or instance of moving through or beyond an obstacle, a sudden advance especially in knowledge or technique.

Definition of blessing – special favor, mercy, or benefit; a favor or gift bestowed by God, thereby bringing happiness.

The Frustration

If you are like me you have been unsuccessfully praying for financial blessing for years.  We get spurts of increase in the money we normally have. However within a month or even that week we are having to ask for another blessing.   That seemed to be the cycle of our life.   Why can we not receive a blessing that would take us into a life of abundance? I desire a life of not having to pinch pennies.

As we look at the above definition of a blessing it refers to a gift bestowed by GOD thereby bringing happiness.  Why can we not have happiness in our finances? After all there were many people in the bible who obtained godly wealth: Joseph, Moses, Abraham, Solomon, the woman with the oil, the proverbs 31 woman, just to name a few.  I’m sure you know people who have received blessings that change their life or their position in life?  What makes them different from us. 

My Current state

To let you know my current situation.  A believer without a place to call my own I had to live with someone,  I had to give up my transportation, and I was unemployed, and no form of income.  Countless times I had declared 2 Corinthians 9:8, in Psalm 23:5.  The Word talks about GOD preparing a table before us in the presence of our enemies. I believed those scriptures but I didn’t understand why it was not manifesting for me.

It was mid -May of this year, after crying out to the LORD once again, when I finally listened and heard His response. GOD response to me was,  the blessings are already available.   I sought GOD for clarification. He informed me what I first needed was a financial breakthrough.    Financial Breakthrough and Financial blessing, I thought were the same.  I had to look up the definition of a breakthrough.  The definition of breakthrough states it is an act or instance of moving through or beyond an obstacle.  The Father explained there were obstacles that I needed to address in order for the blessings to manifest.

I learned these obstacles permitted the enemy to win a temporary stay in a case against me.  Surprisingly enough it was not the enemy sole doing but it was the unintentional permission I had granted to the enemy.  This allowed my financial blessings placed on lockdown.  

 

The Change

At this point, I had changed focus,  I had to be aligned with what GOD was showing me about the obstacles.  I had to be willing to go through  His process to receive His promises.   We can’t operate in GOD based on traditions but we must be willing and patient to hear from Him.  I inquired what obstacles He was referring to.

His response to me was your actions, words, and thoughts are the evidence that the enemy has brought before the courts.  He has won a temporary withholding on your financial blessings. This is the part where we stop praying for what we want. Its time to pray for understanding in the things  GOD is trying to improve, move, or change us. 

What Started it All

Let me back up a bit, I was upset and angry that my current financial situation had not changed for close to two years now.  So I decided to recorded playlist videos.  Videos called Waiting on GOD for a Financial Breakthrough, I wasn’t wanting a breakthrough I was wanting a blessing. To be honest I did these videos to test GOD, to force Him to change my financial situation. 

After the first video of the group, I heard GOD say, Shame, Bola you walk in shame.  It puzzled me.  GOD explained walking in shame in not walking in who He has called us to be, this makes me off alignment.   I began to understand that was one piece of evidence used against me.  It was time for me to allow GOD to deliver me and heal me from shame. By the way, shame is found in  Genesis in the garden when Adam & Eve hid and covered up. 

As we were working out shame in me, it was revealed about poverty mindset, pride & insecurity were some of the other obstacles that I needed deliverance and healing.  My prayers changed. From prayers asking for blessings to asking GOD to reveal the areas in my life that needed to be broken and changed.

Understanding Breakthrough

Breakthrough strives to reject things designed to keep from walking in the fullness of who you are in GOD.  GOD desire that we maintain, and prosper in His gifts/blessings.  He has called us blessed to be a blessing.  How can we be true blessings to others when we walk in doubt, fear, and lack?

Now I realize what the enemy was using to make me experience disappointment and pain.  GOD is using this time to strengthen me, to empower me, and speak with boldness.  What GOD gives us He doesn’t want the enemy to easily snatch away.  

The breakthrough must come first so that His blessing can flow abundantly.   Someone who continuously gets a flow of blessings, normally there was a season of breakthrough they underwent.    I am willing, are you willing to go through the financial breakthrough process. Do want to get a flow of blessings or to have sporadic blessings!

The Outcome!

In this process, GOD downloaded a product called  Financial Breakthrough Prayer Cards He had me created. These cards address some of the behaviors that keep us from financial blessings.  GOD is in the blessing business but are we ready to receive and stand for Him. Is what you are desiring aligned with His will to advance His Kingdom and give Him glory.