Fear keeps so many people stuck in a place that bothers their peace. According to 2 Timothy 1:7 – For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. In the times we are living now, it is important to find our place of peace. Here are five steps that can assist you into moving forward.
Think about the changes that will come about when you succeed. Success, like peace, has to be measured by your standards not another person’s standard. Success should bring a sense of peace.
Do something nice for someone else. Praying for someone else’s need to put your spirit at a higher level.
Think about how you will become more empowered and what it means. Empowerment takes away the fear
Look to GOD as your source and you just fulfill His will. GOD is in control allow Him to lead
Visual the fear under your feet and how it will elevate you. Everything you conquer takes you a higher level.
4 Essential Oils
If you are a fan of diffusers, here is a list of 4 essential oils that help curb the feeling of fear and anxiety.
Frankincense – the ‘king of oils’ to uplift your spirit
Juniper Berry – helps cleanse and purify the air while creating a grounding environment
Bergamot – calming and uplifting abilities
Wild Orange – uplifting, energizing aroma
Allow your diffuser to run as it fills the air with peace. Breathe in the fresh fragrances of our Heavenly Father. These fragrances are the gift of the earth from GOD. Ask Him to take away your fears and bring you His Peace.
Tomorrow is never Promised. This is the first year I will not have my dad for Father’s Day. Wow, we know, it’s a day we must all face, however it is a feeling you just can’t explain. Depending on the type of relationship, it probably leaves a bit of emptiness. I have a friend whose relationship was not good with her father. When he passed, unfortunately, she was not able to satisfactory make amends. Now, she lives with this added scar.
When your Hero is gone
I woke up this morning and heard write a tribute to fathers. Like I stated earlier, my dad has gone to be with the LORD. It just reminds me of how important a man he was in my life. As kids, we developed an image of what a father should emulate. However, no father is perfect, I think mothers get more of a pass on that than fathers. We expect them to walk in perfection. As kids when we looked up at them, they seem to be like a giant. A giant defeating anything bad that came across their path.
I think as we grow older, we still hold on to that image that our Fathers are giants that cannot fail. We idolize them, make them larger than life. A large than life image that many cannot live up to. We become disappointed. Having feelings of rejection, because this man, the man we call father, no longer lives up to our expectations.
This idolatry begins to damage our relationship with our fathers and eventually cascades into impeding ourselves. We have thoughts of, why must he be this way, why cannot he change. We look at friends’ father or tv dad and say why cannot he be like that or wishing he were more like so and so. Not even taken into consideration the person we may admire also has flaws that we have no privy.
He is a part of you
This child-like image we have engrained in our minds, we must let go. See your dad for who he is, appreciate what he has to offer. I know some are reading this and saying well my dad was not in my life as a child, I can only imagine how you feel. Others may say, you do not know the hell he put us through, or some say he is an S.O.B. that I sympathize with you.
Remember, that you are a spirit being, and part of you is him. You cannot escape that fact he is a part of you. When you hold anger, bitterness toward him, you are attacking a part that is inside of you. A part that silently but vigorously rips you apart from the inside out. This battle causes you to be on the extreme ends of the spectrum, never having a balance. Being off balance causes you to fight for peace and a false sense of peace might I add.
I believe as we near the end of our life, we begin to have many regrets, and fathers are not immune to these regrets. I remember talking to friends who work in some type of nursing home or health care dealing with the elderly, they tell me how many of these fathers only see their children on the holidays. As their journey begins to dim, their hearts bleed, some have guilt and shame for what they have or did not do. Permit them to be released from that.
Make a Change
This Father’s Day, if you are not speaking to your father, find it in your heart to reach out. Think of it this way, when you begin to heal your heart, maybe your spirit may touch him for his to be healed so that he can become a better person. Many times, we as kids do not know what our father’s upbringing was to make him turn out the way he is. Forgiveness not only heals you but him and it stops that cycle from being repeated in the generations to come. Your father DNA is part of you, and you are a part of your children’s DNA.
If you still cannot do it for him, do it for your children. They are watching your every move. Tomorrow is never promised. A time may come where it will be almost impossible to heal the scar.
You know I got to help my father transition into the afterlife, and I did not even know he was ill. He had my mom call me to ask for me to say a prayer. The prayer GOD had me say was very intense, that I had to call my pastor. It was about four hours later I get the heart-stopping call he was gone. I was used to talking to my dad a few times a week. Being able to assist daddy in transitioning peacefully was one of the best gifts I could have because I was not there with him physically.
Your father cannot change or heal your past, that my dear is something you have the power to do, be healed from your past. So, take the time to heal your heart, to forgive, and move beyond the pain. There is something good in all of us even your dad. You are a child of GOD and he is a child of GOD. I hope this helped someone begin the healing process.
Exposing & Evicting Shame is necessary for peace, clarity, and joy. Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion typically associated with a negative evaluation of the self, withdrawal motivations and feeling of distress, exposures, mistrust, powerless, and worthlessness. Shame as defined by Wikipedia. An article in Psychology Today, defines shame: A concealed, contagious, and dangerous emotion. The article further goes on to say it is an internal state of inadequacy, dishonor, or regret. Shame can be brought on by what others or circumstances say about or do to us. Circumstance and what others say is one part, the other culprit is coping internally with failure. Guilt is not the same as Shame. Guilt is an emotional experience that results from a wrongdoing or action taken. Shame is attached to a person’s identity and guilt is attached to a person’s actions.
Most of us are no strangers to shame in one form or another. This emotion of shame is very destructive and demeaning to the esteem. Shame is a hidden emotion, that desperately camouflages itself. Shame affects individuals on several levels. Christian are not immune to shame. An individual can be publicly or privately shamed. It can be done by people dear to us or complete strangers. The essence of shame has historically been with mankind from the beginning. We can trace shame back to Genesis 3 when Adam and Eve realized they were both naked.
Exposing & Evicting Shame: Shame has a purpose
Many don’t address the presence of shame. Shame leaves an open access point for the enemy to do sneak attacks. Remember it is Satan purpose is to keep us from walking in our Divine destiny. Satan job is to rob, steal and destroy. If able to convince individuals to wrongly characterize themselves, he has done his job. He robs us of our identity by allowing the perceptions of shame to be more relevant than who GOD created us to be. He steals our authority, constantly searching a false inadequate self-worth persona. A persona refusing to allow the forgiveness of past hurts. Past hurts are embraced by shame. Shame hinders growth. Hinders growth, permits destruction of our divine destiny. A destiny people spend countless years trying to undo, fix, or justify past error. A misaligned destiny causes us to miss out on what beautiful, empowering things are waiting ahead.
Exposing & Evicting Shame: grounds of walking in Shame
Body type, scars, disabilities – unhappy with appearance
Word attachments by others – people speaking and perceiving falsely
Childhood – environment and memories
Exposing & Evicting Shame: Identifying Shame
Shame is a hidden internal emotion that masquerades itself in external outcomes. It surfaces in the form of negative behaviors and/or feelings. Shame is a negative emotion causing stagnation, backwardness and the blame game. Shame is a feeder. It causes the unconscious mind to link every event where there was shame. It like a snowball it continues to grow until heat is applied and is melted away.
Below are some of behaviors that indicate shame may be present
Procrastination – habitual never wanting to complete a task
Depression – constant state of sadness, loneliness, isolation, & moody
Addictions – over excessive behavior
Low self-esteem – don’t see self- worth or value
Lack motivation – detached
Negative self-talk – very little good to say about self
Constant frustration – easily frustrated and impatient
Fright & fear – fear of being discovered & exposed
Mentally beaten down – mentally worn out and discouraged
Weighted down – feelings of can’t do or make things right
Mistrust & doubt – feel people have ulterior motives
Inability to have orgasms – ouch!!
Exposing & Evicting Shame: Effects of Shame
Shame can lead to long term social, professional and sexual difficulty. The duty of Shame is to demoralize. It has no cultural, environmental, or geographic boundaries. It has the capacity to affects the influencers, the affluent, the poor, the kind-heart, the bad personality. taking all and anyone hostage.
Focuses on what we don’t have – very ungrateful
Create a false identity – pretend to be something we are not to protect our self
Self-pity – blame everyone
Pride – over compensate for the lack of
Overly judgmental – critical of self and others
Rejections – sense of not belonging
Abandonment – outcast
Instability – life is like a roller-coaster
Lack confidence in decision -making – constant mind changing behavior
Lack of sensitivity – hide or inappropriate emotional behavior
Unable to forgiveness – need to constantly pound the nail in self or others- reminder
Listed below are qualities that may develop due to shame
As we read the lists from above, it is easy to see how shame hides itself. Shame comes with clusters of other entities/spirits. Shame is like an identical twin to those things listed above. Many times, only one area is addressed, and shame is left intact. There is no magic pill or wand that will it away in an instant. Overcoming shame is a process which can take years. However, as we begin the journey of evicting shame, we will have small victories and wins. Shame is an entity/spirit that must not be ignored, it is damaging to our success. Healing from shame requires honesty, looking at our nakedness, desiring change, and willingness to be challenged. Shames desire that we never find our truth, our identity, our purpose. Don’t be ashamed to deal with shame. We have the authority to confront shame and be set free.
Exposing & Evicting Shame: Evicting Shame
Evicting shame means letting the past be the past. Shame focuses on what we did wrong, we serve a forgiving GOD. It is a voice that we have the power to silence. Shame works in the dark bring it to the light and deal with it.
Forgive – our self and others- we make mistakes
Mind Renewal – people change over the years, even our self
Let go of the hostages – our self and others. The past is the past it cannot change
Publicly confess our shame
Revisit our past/childhood
Have a funeral for those things that caused shame
Be conscious and stop negative self -talk and thoughts
Deal with issues as they arise don’t let them compile
Talk to someone
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Waiting on GOD for Financial Breakthrough – Dealing with Shame
As Christians, GOD desires to cleanse us from shame. Hebrew 10:22 let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water.
The scriptures tell us to be ashamed of the bad things we do, however GOD does not want us to live a life of shame but to confess our wrongdoings, sins, change our ways, and turn to Him. GOD has a plan for us it is for good and not to harm us, Jerm. 29:11. He has called us I am fearfully and wonderfully made, Psalm 139:14. It is GOD desire that we attain our divine destiny and that we see ourselves as a light that represents Him.
Psalm 34:8O taste and see that the Lord is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him.
Mental Health Benefits
When it comes to reading, comprehending, applying the
scripture, it never occurred to me the impact it would have on my mental
stability. Many read the bible because we
feel it pleases GOD or puts us in good standings with the LORD. The truth is GOD gave us His book so we can
have a journey that allows us to have peace of mind, confidence and trust in
Him and receive the love He has for us.
The bible is meant to transform our life for the better, removing guilt,
shame and fear. Guilt, shame, and fear are
the root foundation that causes some of us to have unstable minds, plagued with
depression and worry.
A recent study, Barna revealed that 6 out of 10 adults who
read the Bible said that it has transformed their life.
Barna Group defines a “Bible User” as an “individual who reads, listens to or prays with the Bible on their own at least 3-4 times a year, outside of a church service or church event. 61% of the “Bible users” said that each time they read scripture they realize their need for God. 50% of these people said that reading the Bible increases their desire to know God.
Mental Health Research
According to Mayo Clinical Proceedings, a majority of the nearly 350 studies of physical health and 850 studies of mental health that have used religious and spiritual variables have found that religious involvement and spirituality are associated with better health outcomes.
Our religion and spirituality can greatly impact our mental and physical health. As believers in Christ, the word of GOD aligns us with the Will of GOD for our lives. It is documented that the words associated with the bible give the rooted Christian connectedness, hope, optimism, trust and purpose which boost our mental health. Other powerful words and value systems of the bible such as compassion, forgiveness and gratefulness help empower us mentally. These words help greatly decreased stress and increased resiliency.
Mental Health Stability
When we as Christians truly see GOD as a higher power in control of our destiny it will drive us to seek, read and hear His Word daily, this is when revelations become natural and daily additives in us. Faith does not come by going to church on Sundays but by daily working and walking the word of GOD. Research shows that most who use their religion as a daily tool has a strong internal sense of control. According to Dr. Harold Koenig of Duke University contends that as people pray, and ask God for guidance, they feel a sense of control over their situation and emotions, helping them cope with depression and anxiety. As Christian we must put great emphasis on reading the bible for understanding and direction.
The Word of God Creates and Sustains Life – (John 10:10) – Our roadmap to a better life. A life in which we do not live in anxiety. Knowing we are not alone.
The Word of GOD leads us to freedom – (John 8:32) – Gives us the assurance that GOD is rooting for us. He desires the best for us. Removing confusion and fret. Living GOD Will for us that takes us from glory to glory.
The Word helps shape a positive attitude – (Romans 12:2) – Though obstacles may be all around us, knowing that GOD has given victory to those that trust in Him.
The Word helps us take control of our Feelings and Emotions. – (Proverbs 16:32) – Removing an emotional rollercoaster. The Word of the LORD is no respecter of person, He delights in giving His sons and daughters good gifts.
The Word permits us to take time out – (Psalm 91:1-2) – The LORD expects us to slow down and smell the roses, after all He made those things for us to enjoy.
The Word helps us confront our fears – (Isaiah 41:13) –The bible gives many examples of people who overcame their fears and gained abundantly in life.
The Word helps us avoid dangerous addictions – (Hebrews 4:12) – His word cautions us to the false and temporary things of this earth that eventually will cause us harm.
The Word of GOD is a support system that has you in mind – (Exodus 15:2) – His word reminds us that He will never leave or forsake those that have a heart for Him. He made everything for His good pleasure
The Word nourishes and grows your character – (Romans 5:4-6) – Instructs us how to manifest the word in our life. Going from pieces to Peace. Building endurance to victory
The word encourages you to see the big picture – (1 Peter 5:10) – Change our perspective to be more Christ-like.
We can now see that the bible is so much more than a good read, but leads us into positive character, peace of mind and a freed identity. See the bible as a book of process, progress, and prosperity. Begin to understand and apply the scriptures to daily living experience elevation. This definitely worked for me taking me from a place of insecurity to a place of not fearing to dream big.