Tomorrow is never Promised, Is it Time to Forgive Dad

When the Journey Ends

Tomorrow is never Promised.  This is the first year I will not have my dad for Father’s Day. Wow, we know, it’s a day we must all face, however it is a feeling you just can’t explain. Depending on the type of relationship, it probably leaves a bit of emptiness. I have a friend whose relationship was not good with her father. When he passed, unfortunately, she was not able to satisfactory make amends. Now, she lives with this added scar.

When your Hero is gone

I woke up this morning and heard write a tribute to fathers. Like I stated earlier, my dad has gone to be with the LORD. It just reminds me of how important a man he was in my life. As kids, we developed an image of what a father should emulate. However, no father is perfect, I think mothers get more of a pass on that than fathers. We expect them to walk in perfection. As kids when we looked up at them, they seem to be like a giant. A giant defeating anything bad that came across their path.

I think as we grow older, we still hold on to that image that our Fathers are giants that cannot fail. We idolize them, make them larger than life. A large than life image that many cannot live up to. We become disappointed. Having feelings of rejection, because this man, the man we call father, no longer lives up to our expectations.

This idolatry begins to damage our relationship with our fathers and eventually cascades into impeding ourselves. We have thoughts of, why must he be this way, why cannot he change. We look at friends’ father or tv dad and say why cannot he be like that or wishing he were more like so and so. Not even taken into consideration the person we may admire also has flaws that we have no privy.

He is a part of you

This child-like image we have engrained in our minds, we must let go.  See your dad for who he is, appreciate what he has to offer.   I know some are reading this and saying well my dad was not in my life as a child, I can only imagine how you feel.  Others may say, you do not know the hell he put us through, or some say he is an S.O.B. that I sympathize with you.

Remember, that you are a spirit being, and part of you is him.  You cannot escape that fact he is a part of you.   When you hold anger, bitterness toward him, you are attacking a part that is inside of you. A part that silently but vigorously rips you apart from the inside out.   This battle causes you to be on the extreme ends of the spectrum, never having a balance.   Being off balance causes you to fight for peace and a false sense of peace might I add.

I believe as we near the end of our life, we begin to have many regrets, and fathers are not immune to these regrets. I remember talking to friends who work in some type of nursing home or health care dealing with the elderly, they tell me how many of these fathers only see their children on the holidays.  As their journey begins to dim, their hearts bleed, some have guilt and shame for what they have or did not do.  Permit them to be released from that.

Make a Change

This Father’s Day, if you are not speaking to your father, find it in your heart to reach out.   Think of it this way, when you begin to heal your heart, maybe your spirit may touch him for his to be healed so that he can become a better person.  Many times, we as kids do not know what our father’s upbringing was to make him turn out the way he is.   Forgiveness not only heals you but him and it stops that cycle from being repeated in the generations to come.  Your father DNA is part of you, and you are a part of your children’s DNA.

If you still cannot do it for him, do it for your children.  They are watching your every move.   Tomorrow is never promised.  A time may come where it will be almost impossible to heal the scar.

 

Transition Time

You know I got to help my father transition into the afterlife, and I did not even know he was ill.  He had my mom call me to ask for me to say a prayer.  The prayer GOD had me say was very intense, that I had to call my pastor.  It was about four hours later I get the heart-stopping call he was gone.    I was used to talking to my dad a few times a week.  Being able to assist daddy in transitioning peacefully was one of the best gifts I could have because I was not there with him physically.

Your father cannot change or heal your past, that my dear is something you have the power to do, be healed from your past.   So, take the time to heal your heart, to forgive, and move beyond the pain.  There is something good in all of us even your dad.  You are a child of GOD and he is a child of GOD.  I hope this helped someone begin the healing process.

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Comforter, bringer of Joy in the midst of COVID-19

Comforter bringer of Joy in the midst of COVID-19

The Comforter bringer of Joy. The Lord is our comforter in the time of trouble. It is time to apply the Word of GOD. 

Applying  :The Word of GOD is as Sweet as PIE (His Principle, His Instruction, His Empowerment)

Understanding the Word

“When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul.”Psalm 94:19

Principle:              a Comforter

Instruction:          bringer of  Joy

Empowerment:   His ability to cause us to rise above anxiety

Today we are definitely in trying times.  Who would have thought this experience would happen in our lifetime.   We are trying to figure out who is to blame for all of this.  Who can we trust with the information being conveyed?   Overwhelming feelings are coming upon many.  How do we tame these feelings of anxiety?  There is no one solution to copying with this devastation.

However those who are believers of Christ or those looking for a shelter from the storm, I give & point you to the Christian Bible. Some call Him GOD or YEHOVAH, others know Him as Father, Friend, Lord.  Whichever we reference His name, He wants us to know as declared in Ps94:19  He is our comforter. Our Comforter bringer of joy.

 

Activating the Word

Throughout the Bible, it is mentioned that trials and tribulations will come, that we do not escape even as  Christians. However, those who seek and know Him, will understand  His desire to be our comforter and His will is to bring us internal joy. Not joy based on material or external things but a joy that assures that no matter the situation that we were created with a purpose one that needs to be fulfilled in the earth. Realizing this helps us look beyond our circumstances and begin to seek out and fulfill that which we are divinely called and destined to fulfill.   So take joy in knowing there is assignment heaven is waiting for you to fulfill.

5 Benefits of a Meltdown

5 Benefits of a Meltdown

How can a meltdown have a purpose or better yet be of some benefit, you ask?    First things first,   emotional meltdowns do not usually happen overnight but is a progression of time and circumstances.   Meltdowns are normally indications you are not aligned with your core. You are off center and balance. You have gotten to the point of feeling out of control.   

Though meltdowns surface in different ways among people,however there are common triggers that set emotional meltdowns into action.    Most of these triggers cause an individual to go into overload, causing the person to have an outburst, a release of stress and a need for a huge “exhale”.    The following are some of the triggers that bring on the onset of an emotional meltdown.  The major onset is stress, these stress may come from   tiredness, inability to make a decision, the immune system is weak, and of course anxiety.    Next are a few outcomes of emotional meltdowns: uncontrollable crying;   excessive lashing out at others (warranted or not), outburst of screams, throwing objects, and anything extreme that takes an individual out of character.   

Whatever the case may be, emotional meltdowns are warning signs we should not ignore. They are teaching moments in which present an opportunity for the individual to positively evaluate their perception of life.

Purpose and benefits of the meltdown

  1.  Source seeker – many times meltdowns are triggered by very insignificant situations.  This is the time to really delve into what cause that minor situation to become a mountain that caused an explosion.
  2. I needed that – don’t just leave it at “I needed that” dig deeper into the truth, why was it needed.
  3. Release – meltdowns normally are fueled because of excessive pint up negative feelings and emotions.  It is not healthy to suppress all “negative” emotion.    Find a process in which a routinely release of such behavior can be handled in a positive way.
  4. Moving beyond –  meltdowns give an opportunity to view a situation at a different angle.   Having released that pinned up emotion allows you to see how you could better handle circumstances so that you limit you experiences of meltdowns.
  5. Hear now –   when the negative emotions are released out of the body’s system, it now allows for the voice of GOD to be heard more clearly.

Handling meltdown

Reducing meltdown involves, paying attention to the indicators that bring on meltdowns.   When ignored, these meltdowns come more frequently.   Here are a few suggestions for handling and reducing stress.

  1. Listen to your body – many time the body gives off warning signals; such as anxiety, headaches, lack or excessive sleep, over or under eating just to name a few.  If ignored these end up turning into sickness.
  2. Don’t ignore your feelings – disregarding your emotions can negatively impact how you make decisions and react to things .  Ignoring can also lead to illnesses such as depression. 
  3. Talk to someone – talking to some is always helpful, especially talking to someone who is neutral in the situation.   Sometime just verbalizing it to someone can give you a better sense of the situation. 
  4. Avoid individuals – If it certain people that cause the meltdown, eliminate or at least limit contact with individual that cause you to become unglued.
  5. Get help – seek help from counselor, coaches, spiritual leaders, who can assist p you come up with road maps to better handle such stresses.  

Meltdown do have benefits.  It can help you to seek the root of an issue, encourages you to deal with and not suppress emotions, it can cause to seek truths about yourself, and it can cause you to seek help from GOD, counselors and coaches.   Take the time to learn the lesson behind a breakdown.

If you are need someone to just listen, click the following link to set an appointment with the Good Listener.  

Why Recovering Your Path

Broken chain ,  Breakout of your strongholds
Break out of the strongholds

Why Recovering Your Path and not Discovering Your Path?
I asked GOD the same thing, this is what was downloaded. To discover is to obtain sight or knowledge of for the first time. According to the dictionary to recover is to find or regain possession of (something is stolen or lost) or return to a normal state of health, mind, or strength.

GOD pointed me to Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

We are all created with a plan, GOD’s plan. He desires that we recover our divine path designed for each individual so we live a life of truth, peace, and harmony

How to begin the Recovering Your Path
It is my pleasure and honor to assist women on this journey of recovering her path. My gift is to coach my fellow sisters in exposing the lies, the twisted belief and the unnecessary and unhealthy emotional strongholds. I do this through 1-on-1 or group coaching and workshops. My blogs will help you hopefully get insight into things you may have overlooked.